Get Help Anywhere in the United States
If there is something
about your relationship that scares you, call the National Domestic Violence
Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Someone is available at all times to listen
and provide information to help you get safe. The National Domestic
Violence Hotline (NDVH) is a nationwide resource available 24 hours a day, 365
days a year. All calls to NDVH are anonymous and translation is available for
over 140 languages. Hotline Advocates have access to over 4800 resources
nationwide and are able to connect callers to the services and programs
available in their area.
Are You in an Abusive
Relationship? Relationship Quiz
Does your partner:
Act
extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you, or use jealousy to justify
his/her actions?
Control your finances, behavior and even whom you socialize
with?
Make you afraid by using looks, actions, and gestures like smashing
things, destroying your property or displaying weapons?
Threaten to kill you
or commit suicide?
Make all the decisions?
Stop you from seeing or talking
to friends, family or limits your outside involvement?
Act like the abuse is
no big deal, it's your fault or even deny doing it?
Threatens to kill your
pets?
Puts you down in front of other people, humiliates you, plays mind
games and makes you feel as if you are crazy?
Prevents you from getting or
keeping a job?
Takes your money or does not let you know about or have access
to the family income?
Threatens to take the children away?
Do you:
Become quiet when he/she is around and feel afraid of making him/her
angry?
Cancel plans at the last minute?
Stop seeing your friends and
family members, becoming more and more isolated?
Find yourself explaining
bruises to family or friends?
If you answered yes to any of these
questions, you may be involved in a relationship that is physically, emotionally
or sexually abusive.
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if
your partner:
Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes
you.
Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
Tries to isolate
you from family or friends.
Monitors where you go, who you call and who you
spend time with.
Does not want you to work.
Controls finances or refuses
to share money.
Punishes you by withholding affection.
Expects you to ask
permission.
Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your
pets.
Humiliates you in any way.
You may be in a physically abusive
relationship if your partner has ever:
Damaged property when angry (thrown
objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked
or choked you.
Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
Scared
you by driving recklessly.
Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
Forced
you to leave your home.
Trapped you in your home or kept you from
leaving.
Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical
attention.
Hurt your children.
Used physical force in sexual situations.
You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:
Views
women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Accuses you of cheating
or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Wants you to dress in a
sexual way.
Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
Has ever
forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
Held
you down during sex.
Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating
you.
Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
Involved other people in
sexual activities with you.
Ignored your feelings regarding sex.